I understand-- a small part of what you're going through. I'm 75, retired RN--a job I never wanted. I wanted to be a writer. But father said no college. Married and had a daughter (who is now working on her PhD in English). I was an unhappy major support of our family. Now I try to write with extreme right arm torn rotator cuff pain --hoping to soon get to a place where I can have replacement surgery.
Last year I did well on this platform--finally had a enough money by writing to add to income tax return. Not this year - multiple illnesses and pain have limited me.
But you're 40 and have such talent--you have a future. While I'm saying good-bye to mine.
You can do this. I know you can. I see it in every post.